Plastic surgery and cosmetic procedures have been around for more than three decades. We’ve seen the mind blowing transformations, the not-so-ok cases and the horror stories.

Before you even decide, you have to look at your flaws from a place of self love and acceptance. Ok, it will seem like I’m contradicting myself but keep reading. I understand you want to get rid of those love handles, dropping belly, sagging boobs and stubborn fat pockets that make you depressed and unhappy. You want to be able to attend events and take nice photographs without getting conscious. You want to be able to wear the nice dresses you admire. But you must understand that after getting a hot body and being able to do all these, you may still not be happy. That’s exactly what I’m trying to say.

You’ll need to settle this internally and sincerely. Because this is why some people keep going for several revision surgeries. Start from truly appreciating your self and body. Be grateful for your post-baby body. Take it easy on yourself. Forgive you for letting yourself go and gaining weight. Heal from the heartbreak that led to depression and poor eating habits. Forgive the people who body-shamed you, they don’t know any better. Have a clear mind and head from all the hate around. Only you matters.

Then decide to have plastic surgery because you “love yourself a little too much”. See it as a gift to yourself. See it as a comeback. Be positive about your journey and getting your confidence back. Have plastic surgery for “you” and not just to attain society’s standard’s of beauty. This will help you go through the highs and lows of recovery.

Without sincere self love, hate and depression will occupy despite having good results after surgery. And after the 5th round, you are still unhappy. Simply don’t decide without being in love with you and all you have survived.

Dinma Curvygirl.